Sometimes life happens.
The good news is, that we can always choose to start again.
It's time to start again for me too.
Sometimes the busyness of life allows good things to just... disappear. And when the timing is right, they reappear.
Like this blog. Yep! It fell off my radar... but it now feels like it's time to get back on the blog.
Today's thought is just this... Get Back on Track...
To me, that means taking some time to think about what getting back on track might be. I was listening to a pod cast by Matthew Kahn entitled the Golden Rule Number 1 this morning and it was "You've Done Nothing Wrong".
At first that just seemed wrong, because of course we've all done something wrong. First and foremost, we are all on a journey, and yes, we make mistakes, but for most of us, that's how we learn. And yet, when we do make mistakes, the tendency is to live in regret. And that means we are living in the past. We look at life through fault and blame and punishment.
So when we look through the new lens, through a new perspective, instead of looking through the eyes of failure, we can let that go, and choose to see that at that moment, we did the best we could with what we had and that we lived the way it was supposed to be.
It's called evolution... we grow and learn and now know more. And now you have a greater perspective and a new opportunity to rejoice. It's a choice...
A new perspective...
D~
Sunday, July 21, 2019
Monday, September 2, 2013
Men Are That They Might Have Joy
Adam fell that men might be; men are that they might have joy. 2 Nephi 2:25
Heavenly Father created us with the intention that we would create joy... so how many of us have joy? What does it mean to have joy? What does it mean to sustain joy?
There is a chart, Human Emotions Vibrations Analysis Frequency Ranges which ranks emotions from low to high. Joy is near the top, while shame and guilt are near the bottom.
Many people with addictions often find their vibrations are very low. Shame, guilt, apathy, grief and fear are all feelings addicts have. Those feelings vibrate at 100 or lower. Other emotions are: desire at 125, anger is 150 and pride is 175.
When a person vibrates in lower frequencies, it can be very difficult to hear God or feel the Holy Spirit. And consequently it feels like things are cyclical... a viscous circle. Bad things keep happening. When the truth is that's all we can create at those lower frequencies. That is how most problems are created.
Are you familiar with the phrase, "Rise Above"? That statement really means to raise the vibration. Albert Einstein said something like this... "We can not solve problems at the same level that we created them." If we are constantly hanging out in those lower emotions, it can be difficult to get out of them and we can end up in that vicious circle again.
So when we get tired of feeling bad most or all of the time, we do have options. We can raise our vibration. Okay, so do how does one raise their vibration? Great question! The answer is really almost so simple that it might even be dismissed. Positive affirmations and gratitude.
What is a positive affirmation? More or less, they are positive phrases which you repeat to yourself that describe how you want to be. (even if they are not true right now they will come true)
Carol Tuttle has stated in many of her cds and books that she would go through her day saying 50-100 times a day... I am happy! Life is easy!! It is familiar!!! These (and others like them) are great affirmations to say... even if they don't feel true... yet. Carol's CD is called Powerful Affirmations to Change Your Life.
Louise L. Hay has lots of affirmations in a great book called Heal Your Body (and other materials.) Follow me on Twitter for daily affirmations.
At what level do we want to be vibrating at?
Raising our vibration is like climbing a ladder. We take a step up, and raise our vibration a little bit... but it feels good, so we keep climbing.
Then suddenly, it seems to high, so we may go back to the lower emotions, where it feels a little more comfortable, hopefully not going all the way back down to the bottom.
Sooner or later, we feel ready to climb another rung or two or three... Don't be surprised if it's not sustainable... yet. Give yourself some time to Rise Up. Because it will become familiar, the more we live in the higher vibrations.
Remember, we have been vibrating in the lower energies longer than in the higher vibrations. It may feel strange and awkward for a while. Stick with it. You can write affirmations, you sing affirmations, you can dance the affirmations.
Being grateful is another way to raise your vibration. Express sincere gratitude often, in prayer, in your journal, to family members... and watch what happens.
Courage is 200, Neutrality is 250, Willingness is 310, Acceptance is 350, Reason is 400, Love is 500, Joy is 540, Peace is 600 and Enlightenment is 700.
It's time to raise the earth's vibration... one person at a time.
Heavenly Father created us with the intention that we would create joy... so how many of us have joy? What does it mean to have joy? What does it mean to sustain joy?
There is a chart, Human Emotions Vibrations Analysis Frequency Ranges which ranks emotions from low to high. Joy is near the top, while shame and guilt are near the bottom.
Many people with addictions often find their vibrations are very low. Shame, guilt, apathy, grief and fear are all feelings addicts have. Those feelings vibrate at 100 or lower. Other emotions are: desire at 125, anger is 150 and pride is 175.
When a person vibrates in lower frequencies, it can be very difficult to hear God or feel the Holy Spirit. And consequently it feels like things are cyclical... a viscous circle. Bad things keep happening. When the truth is that's all we can create at those lower frequencies. That is how most problems are created.
Are you familiar with the phrase, "Rise Above"? That statement really means to raise the vibration. Albert Einstein said something like this... "We can not solve problems at the same level that we created them." If we are constantly hanging out in those lower emotions, it can be difficult to get out of them and we can end up in that vicious circle again.
So when we get tired of feeling bad most or all of the time, we do have options. We can raise our vibration. Okay, so do how does one raise their vibration? Great question! The answer is really almost so simple that it might even be dismissed. Positive affirmations and gratitude.
What is a positive affirmation? More or less, they are positive phrases which you repeat to yourself that describe how you want to be. (even if they are not true right now they will come true)
Carol Tuttle has stated in many of her cds and books that she would go through her day saying 50-100 times a day... I am happy! Life is easy!! It is familiar!!! These (and others like them) are great affirmations to say... even if they don't feel true... yet. Carol's CD is called Powerful Affirmations to Change Your Life.
Louise L. Hay has lots of affirmations in a great book called Heal Your Body (and other materials.) Follow me on Twitter for daily affirmations.
At what level do we want to be vibrating at?
Raising our vibration is like climbing a ladder. We take a step up, and raise our vibration a little bit... but it feels good, so we keep climbing.
Then suddenly, it seems to high, so we may go back to the lower emotions, where it feels a little more comfortable, hopefully not going all the way back down to the bottom.
Sooner or later, we feel ready to climb another rung or two or three... Don't be surprised if it's not sustainable... yet. Give yourself some time to Rise Up. Because it will become familiar, the more we live in the higher vibrations.
Remember, we have been vibrating in the lower energies longer than in the higher vibrations. It may feel strange and awkward for a while. Stick with it. You can write affirmations, you sing affirmations, you can dance the affirmations.
Being grateful is another way to raise your vibration. Express sincere gratitude often, in prayer, in your journal, to family members... and watch what happens.
Courage is 200, Neutrality is 250, Willingness is 310, Acceptance is 350, Reason is 400, Love is 500, Joy is 540, Peace is 600 and Enlightenment is 700.
It's time to raise the earth's vibration... one person at a time.
Sunday, August 11, 2013
Where to go from here... Start where you are.
Thanks to all of those who shared support for my first blog post.
Several years ago, I watched a movie called "An Unfinished Life"... one of the lines near the end of the movie was really made me think.
The story is about a young couple, who were in a car accident and the young man was killed. His pregnant wife felt guilty and left town. She bounced around from bad relationship to bad relationship.
Desperately in need a place of respite, she returns to her angry father-in-law who grudgingly allows her and Griff, his granddaughter, to stay. Later in the movie the last boyfriend comes back to find her and the father-in-law asks her how she could end up with a lowlife like that.
Her response... "I didn't think I deserved anything better."
That line resonated with me. I felt like that... and yet, I knew it wasn't true. And that was where I started to find my way back.
Attending ARP allowed me to admit my life had become unmanageable in public, without being judged, (ARP is confidential) to share my story and know it would stay there. I also knew that everyone there had been in a similar position and felt their love and support. Finally a place where I could share my feelings, and not be chastised. It was a ray of hope.
One of the first things ARP encourages us to do is to pray. Now that may seem like it's easy, but when I felt like I didn't deserve anything better, I certainly didn't believe that Heavenly Father wanted to talk to me. Needless to say, this activity sat on the back burner for a while.
Knowing that I wasn't ready to pray, the group leader suggested another option, writing. Writing was a very therapeutic way for me to begin to work through my issues. For some reason, that seemed to resonate with me.
At the end of each step in the ARP manual are the action steps. Each day or two, I would read the suggested reading and write whatever came into my head. So I started writing. And the tears started flowing... and flowing ... and flowing. I didn't think they would ever stop. It actually felt good to release some of the things that I had been holding in.
A good friend taught me to remember to breathe and to let the feelings move through my body and release them. To acknowledge what has come up... and to allow it to fade away. After it fades away, to imagine love or light flowing to fill in the space that held those feelings. She also encouraged me to drink lots of water after an emotional release. Drinking water flushes toxins out of the body. This is a perfect time to drink infused water.
I am grateful for the ARP program, for the leaders and facilitators who have encouraged me on my new path. I know that they played a big role in helping me to change my thoughts, and for just loving me for who I am.
Attending ARP was one of the nicest things I had done for myself in a long time.
Several years ago, I watched a movie called "An Unfinished Life"... one of the lines near the end of the movie was really made me think.
The story is about a young couple, who were in a car accident and the young man was killed. His pregnant wife felt guilty and left town. She bounced around from bad relationship to bad relationship.
Desperately in need a place of respite, she returns to her angry father-in-law who grudgingly allows her and Griff, his granddaughter, to stay. Later in the movie the last boyfriend comes back to find her and the father-in-law asks her how she could end up with a lowlife like that.
Her response... "I didn't think I deserved anything better."
That line resonated with me. I felt like that... and yet, I knew it wasn't true. And that was where I started to find my way back.
Attending ARP allowed me to admit my life had become unmanageable in public, without being judged, (ARP is confidential) to share my story and know it would stay there. I also knew that everyone there had been in a similar position and felt their love and support. Finally a place where I could share my feelings, and not be chastised. It was a ray of hope.
One of the first things ARP encourages us to do is to pray. Now that may seem like it's easy, but when I felt like I didn't deserve anything better, I certainly didn't believe that Heavenly Father wanted to talk to me. Needless to say, this activity sat on the back burner for a while.
Knowing that I wasn't ready to pray, the group leader suggested another option, writing. Writing was a very therapeutic way for me to begin to work through my issues. For some reason, that seemed to resonate with me.
At the end of each step in the ARP manual are the action steps. Each day or two, I would read the suggested reading and write whatever came into my head. So I started writing. And the tears started flowing... and flowing ... and flowing. I didn't think they would ever stop. It actually felt good to release some of the things that I had been holding in.
A good friend taught me to remember to breathe and to let the feelings move through my body and release them. To acknowledge what has come up... and to allow it to fade away. After it fades away, to imagine love or light flowing to fill in the space that held those feelings. She also encouraged me to drink lots of water after an emotional release. Drinking water flushes toxins out of the body. This is a perfect time to drink infused water.
I am grateful for the ARP program, for the leaders and facilitators who have encouraged me on my new path. I know that they played a big role in helping me to change my thoughts, and for just loving me for who I am.
Tuesday, August 6, 2013
why I am starting this blog
For years I felt like life just happened to me. For years I felt like a victim. For years I have felt that I am was just not worth a plug nickel. For years I have felt helpless, hopeless and lost. Then I had the opportunity to attend an Addiction Recovery Program at my church. That was the first step for me to take my life back.
The First Step... Admit that you, of yourself are powerless to overcome your addictions and that your life has become unmanageable.
What is an addiction? To me, an addiction is a behavior that consumes time, resources and energy that would normally be used to fortify the family.
Consider that there we have parts to us, a physical body, a spiritual body, and a mental body. Happiness occurs when these three bodies are in balance. When the physical body is in control, it is expressed in the form of addictions. When the mental body is in control, depression is often the result. In the case of an overly spiritual body, it might be called being a religious zealot.
So when my body was out of alignment... aka unhappy, I looked for something that felt like being happy... even if it was only temporary. I turned to facebook games.
Playing games allowed me to not think about my life and the "failure" that I felt I was. It was starting to consume my life. I spent most of the day playing games. I was doing just the minimum in my house hold responsibilities.
When the opportunity came to attend an ARP class, I jumped on it. Although it was a bit intimidating... after all who wants to admit that they are not perfect right? For me, it was the first step on this journey to healing myself. Attending ARP was the one of the nicest things I have done for myself in a long time.
Join me as I share my discoveries on my path to becoming whole.
resources:
This is a link to the ARP Manual
This is a link to listen to a meeting
The First Step... Admit that you, of yourself are powerless to overcome your addictions and that your life has become unmanageable.
What is an addiction? To me, an addiction is a behavior that consumes time, resources and energy that would normally be used to fortify the family.
Consider that there we have parts to us, a physical body, a spiritual body, and a mental body. Happiness occurs when these three bodies are in balance. When the physical body is in control, it is expressed in the form of addictions. When the mental body is in control, depression is often the result. In the case of an overly spiritual body, it might be called being a religious zealot.
So when my body was out of alignment... aka unhappy, I looked for something that felt like being happy... even if it was only temporary. I turned to facebook games.
Playing games allowed me to not think about my life and the "failure" that I felt I was. It was starting to consume my life. I spent most of the day playing games. I was doing just the minimum in my house hold responsibilities.
When the opportunity came to attend an ARP class, I jumped on it. Although it was a bit intimidating... after all who wants to admit that they are not perfect right? For me, it was the first step on this journey to healing myself. Attending ARP was the one of the nicest things I have done for myself in a long time.
Join me as I share my discoveries on my path to becoming whole.
resources:
This is a link to the ARP Manual
This is a link to listen to a meeting
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